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August 28, 2008

The Democratic Convention, Gay Activists & the FBI

Last night, a former President, Clinton, spoke to the delegates of the 2008 Democratic convention about the need to get behind the ticket (and I couldn't agree more). But the moment that stopped me was when he mentioned gay rights as an equal to other important issues. Given that the Clintons and Barack Obama do not support marriage rights, well, it's a quibble since there is so much more that must come first, including ENDA. However, I wanted to bring up a little history, going back to the convention of 1972, when Gay Activists went to protest at the Democratic National Convention.

The FBI, which was under the control of the closeted and self-hating J. Edgar Hoover, was (and most likely still is) infiltrating political groups like the Gay Activists Alliance at the time. And one of their domestic spies reported that gay activists were planning to bring hand guns and rifles to a demonstration at the convention. Can you think of anything more preposterous? Nevertheless, you can see it yourself in black and white, below, in a document released as part of FOIA requests:
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As a former member of GAA I can't tell you how bizarre this is to read. All the more disturbing is the list (see below) that the FBI complied of delegate activists from GAA organizations around the country — it includes the name of Marc Wald, who was also a member of Gay Youth when I was chair, and eventually was chair of the group himself for a brief time. I figure I'm going to come across my name sooner or later in FOIA documents. After all, what could be more threatening to the mindset of those who believe in a police state than an out and proud queer Jew?
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I am glad there are security people at today's convention — they managed to catch and prevent an assassination attempt. But given the arrests at the protests at the RNC convention in NY 4 years back, arrests that were all thrown out of court recently, one can only wonder what the state security apparatus is doing (apart from using AT&T to bug all our phones). And how much the Democrats can really affect this steady erosion of rights and privacy.

Don't get me wrong, I am amazed to see how far the gay movement has come in the years since the 1972 convention. But to quote my favorite red-headed president, Thomas Jefferson: eternal vigilance is the price of liberty. Which means watching the watchers.

I remember the first time I saw art work by Joe Brainard

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I was standing in a store on Spring St. in Manhattan called Untitled that sold art post cards. Some time in the mid 70s I went there and bought several dozen — 10 of which I laid out on my bed with the intention of creating a narrative from the images and then writing a little chapter of the story on the back of each to mail to a boyfriend who was Joewithcigsmall away at college in Bennington. One of the postcards I didn't use was the one above, which was a limited edition postcard created by Joe Brainard. I didn't even know who he was or that he was an artist and a poet.

Around the same time, I started reading poetry by the New York School after coming across some poems from the group in Mouth of The Dragon. And it led me to Brainard's memoir, I Remember.... This hypnotically beautiful mantra of memories moved me greatly. It didn't shy away from his queer life and loves, juxtaposing the most soul stirring moments with the absolutely everyday — all related in a way that spoke to all the senses. What is so amazing is that this poem has become the template for teachers in schools around the country for teaching children how to write poetry (minus the racier bits).

What a handsome man he was. I first saw a photo of him at a retrospective of his  work  that traveled the country — I happened to see it at a museum in Berkeley. Recently a book was published of his artwork that centered around a popular 20th Century comic character, Nancy. If you don't know his work, go take a look at his website. You'll be surprised to discover just how much of his work informed everything that came after him — and how much of his work inspired Warhol. I actually think Brainard was the wittier and more accomplished artist — Warhol was just more of a merchant and showman than Brainard was interested in being.  If you like what you see of JB's work, you should also check out the site of his friend and sometime companion, Kenward Elmslie.

Jubu News

Well, other bloggers have picked on the S.J.Parker story — the story appears in a thread on Jubus in a Thai website that also notes the posting by Shravasti Dhammika that I responded to last week. The blog Going For Refuge also picks up the Parker story, and comments on it from a more personal POV. The Precious Metal blog, that covers stories of interest to Buddhists, including good coverage of Burma and Tibet, re-publishes the story whole, without comment, though its readers have a lot to say on the subject that's amusing. Tibetblogs.com picks up the Precous Metal posting whole, with the comments from the blog. Whereas over at Heck of A Guy, the focus on the Parker story shifts to Leonard Cohen, who the author is a real fan of.

In queer jubu news, a lesbian couple in Michigan was searching for a rabbi to marry them (sounds like the opening of a joke, I know). And because one of the partners came from a mixed marriage (not meaning a man and a woman but a Jew and a Gentile) the rabbi wouldn't perform the ceremony. This is actually the case at my synagogue, where there have been queer commitment ceremonies for years, but only for couples where both partners were Jewish. The reason? You are making an agreement, a covenant or b'rit, and this kind of sacred covenant requires that you be Jewish. Anything else is simply a contract. Secular.

As it turns out, they found a Jubu cantor (who is also an acupunturist) to do the ceremony. Mazel Tov! If only the Jubu cantor was a gay guy! I'd be on my way to Michigan to ask for a date.

August 25, 2008

Gay Athletes, Oral Sex and Advertising

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There's a provocative headline to introduce this rather amusing print ad for a gay bar in Prague. The Gym Sports Bar down on 8th Avenue in Chelsea has never done anything this playful. Of course given the history that many gay bars in NYC are basically still run by organized crime, it's no surprise the ads are simply about the beef, with hardly any playfulness at all (btw that's no reflection on the ownership of Gym Bar, which I've been to all of once and decided, uh, this is why I hate straight bars, why have a gay bar like this?).

Kudos to EuroRSCG for this ad, posted, as usual, at adsoftheworld, where the ad posted next to it, presented an even more amusing juxtaposition as you can see below. Perhaps the guy eating the Snickers bar needs more practice taking it all. All the more interesting is that the ad is for Snickers — the controversy surrounded that homophobic advertising debacle was chronicled over at joemygod.
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Jubu Review: A response to the Venerable Shravasti Dhammika

A few months back, Shravasti Dhammika, a Buddhist monk of 32 years practice and the spiritual advisor to the Buddha Dhamma Mandala Society in Singapore, added a post to his blog on the subject of hyphenated Buddhists in general, and Jewish-Buddhists in particular.  The good monk wrote that whole idea of hyphenated Buddhists gives him an “identity crisis,” which is a pretty funny thing for him to say, given that an identity is about as insubstantial as it gets in Buddhism. I suspect he was winking when he wrote this, since his sense of humor is on display throughout this posting. After all, mistaking the skandhas for a self would be a shande. 

Jubu_tee Nevertheless, the question of hyphenated Buddhists, and Jewish Buddhism or Buddhist Judaism in particular disturbed him. And it’s a question that that often comes up in my world, since I identify myself as a  Jewish Buddhist. I am hardly alone on this path, since it’s been estimated that 30% of American born Buddhists also identify in some way as Jewish. That’s enough people to become a market! And so,, no surprise, there are quite a number of books, films and t-shirts (blending spiritual path, identity and fashion with Western consumerism) on the phenomenon. The venerable Dhammika refers to some books by an IMC teacher I admire, Sylvia Boorstein, in particular. I don’t think she would define herself as a Jubu — her excellent essay in Beside Still Waters,Besidestillwaters_2 an anthology of writings by Jews and Christians who have been profoundly changed by their Buddhist practice is her response to the question of hyphenated identity and I recommend it. This is my response to the venerable Dhammika’s post where he writes:

“Is it possible to be a practicing Jew and a practicing Buddhist at the same time? No it is not! The two are mutually incompatible. A Buddhist would have to see most of the practices of Orthodox and even Reformed Judaism as harmless but empty rituals that contributed nothing to the development of virtue or the freeing of the mind. If anything, they reinforce a specific identity; the very thing Buddhism seeks to transcend. The Torah’s unambiguous demand for total allegiance to the God of Israel and the Buddha’s God-free spirituality and world view, separate the two religions from the word go.”

I take issue with a number of things he writes here. Just as I take issue with Rabbi Akiva Tatz, who wrote a book called Letters to a Buddhist Jew, that I will write about in another post. However, what both gentlemen have in common is a lack or experience or deep knowledge of each other’s path, so that neither man has enough of an understanding of the other’s path to make a full judgment or fair assessment.

Today though, I’m sticking to the venerable Dhammika’s comments. So let’s start with his contention that the Torah demands “total allegiance to the God of Israel.”

I’m not sure what his concept of that God is, but I have to respond with the words of Rabbi Irwin Kula: “I don’t believe in the God you don’t believe in either.”

The word God itself is problematic. People tend to think of a character, a personage, a being with a personality, and for that matter, a gender. Thinking about god this way is basically a violation of one of the commandments — against idolatry, which isn’t restricted to making physical images. In Judaism one cannot speak the name of the Divine because to name something is to limit it, to have control over it, and the Divine is beyond language or limit.

One of the central Jewish prayers, said several times during services, is the Kaddish. The point of the Kaddish is to break through the tendency of the mind to reify God. Rather than being an empty ritual, it is a prayer designed to break through any definition of what is essentially beyond the limited power of language to express and thus help open the one praying to an experience of the unconditioned state. If one recites it rote, without consciousness, it is no different from simply reciting the sutras without mindfulness. Or for that matter reciting a sutra as a mantra in the hopes of getting a new car (Can you say Sokka Gakkai?).

The Kaddish is a deep teaching about the nature of the Divine, which in the Jewish mystical tradition is sometimes referred to as the Ayn Sof: infinite no-thing-ness. It is beyond form and formlessness. This is not the same thing as Nirvana (or is it?), though I can’t rightly say, never having experienced it. For that matter, it is an experience, from all I can gather, than can only be expressed by what it is not (which is expressed beautifully in the medieval work of Christian mysticism, The Cloud of Unknowing). This is the place where language breaks down. So while I can’t say with any authority that these concepts are equivalent, I have a sense that they arise from the same place (or no-place as the case may be).

I remember when I had walked away from Judaism entirely, and had given myself over to meditation practice and the study of the sutras and the various commentaries. My friend Marion asked me what I had found in Buddhism that I hadn’t found in Judaism. I read her some passages and spoke to her about what meditation had given me. She opened up a siddur — the book of Jewish prayer — and pointed to some passages that went to the heart of what I was talking about. In fact, several of these prayers were mindfulness practices — they weren’t something so much to be read as instructions to a practice of awareness. I was dumbfounded, since I had never recognized this before. Like the venerable Dhammika, I saw the liturgy as empty ritual. But of course, no rabbi in my youth had ever taught these prayers as an awareness and mindfulness practice. I wasn’t even sure there were rabbis who understood these prayers in that way.

Rabbi_kalonymus_kalman_shapira Of course, that was my ignorance of my own tradition. And the fact that no rabbis in my youth taught in this was was a result of the history of post-enlightenment Judaism in the U.S. and the broken lineage of deep teachers in the last century — . I knew nothing of masters like Kalonymus Kalman Shapira, who taught a meditation technique that reads like a text on Vipassana, and who was murdered in the Holocaust.

When I delved deeper into the tradition of my ancestors I discovered many texts I would never have understood but for my experience with Buddhist meditation. And I met rabbis who not only understood the practices these prayers called for, they actively taught them.

As for a hairy thunderer in the sky demanding total allegiance — well, that’s just a story. A teaching story. I don’t imagine that the venerable Dhammika literally believes all of the Jataka tales. And I doubt he believes in a literal being called Mara. These tales are told to point to a deeper truth.
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I can’t deny that Judaism, like Shinto, carries the mythic history and consciousness of a particular people from a particular time. The Torah, like the Kojiki, are the stories that encode the deepest teaching of the tradition. Taking it literally is about as delusionary as believing that the Japanese emperor is a direct descendent of the sun goddess, Amaterasu. Ahem, well. Obviously many Japanese did believe this well into the last century — the Venerable Dhammika neglected to ask the same question about hyphenated Buddhists to the entire Japanese nation, whose population pretty much considers itself both Buddhist and Shinto. But as always, I digress…

The problems arise when people take the stories literally — it’s what leads to kamikaze pilots, the suicide bombers of WWII, not to mention murderous zealots like Baruch Goldstein. Or lunatics like Fred Phelps. I stray again…

Getting back to the empty prayers and rituals…perhaps the most important prayer in Judaism is the Shema – which, rather than being a demand for total allegiance is a radical statement that calls one’s full attention to the unity of reality.

While my interpretation of the prayer may sound unorthodox to many who grew up with the English translation that appears across from the Hebrew in the siddur, it is actually within the realm of orthodoxy (which is not usually where I find myself):

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Listen/Be mindful, you who wrestle with the Inexpressible, the Inexpressible is Greater/Beyond Anything you can imagine, and it is Indivisible from Reality - there is nothing that is separate or not a part of It (including you and your struggle).

The Hebrew is a lot shorter, but it’s a language of great economy that manages to express a non-dual experience of the Divine that is both transcendent and immanent simultaneously.

Now certainly there are places where Judaism and Buddhism clearly part ways. There is no monastic tradition (that has survived, i.e. the Essenes) in Judaism. While Buddhism sees the way out of suffering through equanimity, Judaism calls for passionate engagement with all of life — experiencing joy and suffering as the fullness that is human existence. While Buddhist monks don’t marry, don’t work and don’t own anything, historically rabbis have been expected to marry, work and provide for their families. This is where the paths diverge for those who wish to practice, not simply as laymen (ah, the innate sexism and limits of language), but as complete devotees.

By our very nature as humans, we cannot see or express the whole truth. Each of our traditions displays merely one facet of the jewel of Reality. Each does it’s best to give its adherents a practice that will enable them to see this and apprehend an experience beyond the limits of expression.  And each has practices that can be bizarre and counterproductive to the goal — how could it be otherwise, given their long history and the addition of any number of adopted teachings and offshoot branches.

The rabbi of  Congregation Har HaShem in Boulder, in his blog notes an beautifully strange similarlity between the writings of the Soto Zen monk Shunryu Suzuki and the 18th century Chassidic rabbi, Levi Yitzchak of Berditchev. This great master wrote that:

“we are holy in that we can become aware of our essential nothingness – 'Know that you come from nothing' – and that Jewish practice (mitzvoth) raise our consciousness of the nothingness underlying our existence, and the transitory nature of our materiality.”

At this point you would be excused if you quoted Shakespeare and said of me, “I think the lady doth protest too much.”

Yes there are differences, and there are practices in each tradition that would be anathema to the other. I do my best to live fully in the real contradictions while celebrating the ultimate oneness. Duality is real. I live in it every day. There’s just a greater reality. And the teachings of both traditions create a feedback loop that helps take me deeper to a place that transcends both.

Rabbi Arthur Green, in Tormented Master, his biography of the Chassidic master, Rabbi Nachman, related this conversation between the rabbi and a close disciple. R. Nachman explained that he really no longer needed to follow many of the commandments. Because in following the path of mitzvoth, of living in blessing, he had “reached the other shore” and no longer needed the vehicle of the form. But he continued to follow these practices because he had followers — and if he kept up the practice his followers would be inspired to continue, despite the difficulties of the path, and could someday reach the far shore themselves. Sounds like a boddhisatva vow to me.

I’m grateful to the venerable Dhammika — his words gave me an opening to write about all this in more Munothingnesssanjusangendo2 depth than usual and possibly open a dialog.  And I am grateful to my teachers in both traditions: their words and their living examples have been a blessing in my life.

One more parenthetical — a postscript: here is a question/koan to consider on the dual path from this Jewish Buddhist — to go with the collection of Jewish Buddhist haiku that gets sent around by email endlessly (and believe me I’ve seen it many times, so please stop sending it to me!):
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August 24, 2008

Sex and the Sutras: Sarah Jessica Parker, Public Relations, Jews and Buddhism

A very odd item was posted on the pr-inside.com website about Sarah Jessica Parker’s interest in Buddhism. Titled “Sarah Jessica Parker: Hollywood's Newest Jew-Bu?” It starts with a lead-in that is disingenuous to say the least:

“Vanishing from public view to her discreet Irish hideaway, superstar Parker seems to be seeking tranquility down a path that many of her faith have trodden in the past.”

160734sarahjessicaparkerhollywoodsn Uhhh, you haven’t vanished from public view if a public relations firm is writing about your inner spiritual explorations. The real question is who or what the PR firm is flacking. As PR goes, this isn’t a very good story for SJP. It suggests that the reason for her interest in Buddhism is that her marriage is “incontinent.”

Before I even go on considering the reason for the story, I have to stop and ask what Jeff Culhane, the writer of the story, meant by using that word. Incontinent usually refers to the inability to control one’s excretory functions. Unless SJP or Matthew have had surgery recently, I don’t think that’s the issue.

Incontinence can also refer to an unrestrained expression of emotion — such as incontinent rage. Not being inside that relationship there’s no way of knowing, and I won’t speculate. Last, the word can mean a lack of sexual restraint, which, once again, there is no way of knowing. Except to say that given the public persona of both SJP and Matthew (who I had a crush on the moment I saw him in Torch Song Trilogy off Broadway years ago) none of these definitions seems to suit the situation. But what do I know?

Perhaps the whole story is a joke, since one “close confidante” quoted in the interview said: “ 'Sarah travels a lot, mostly by air. And in the Jewish mystical tradition -- where Judaism comes closest to Buddhism -- God exists on many planes.” Ba-da-bump.

Another quote in the article ends with an extremely random sentence, making me wonder whether an editor looked at this piece at all:

'Buddhism fills a void left by her traditional Jewish faith,' confides a close friend of Parker's. 'It's a way for her to understand and diminish personal suffering, let go of fears, and to get pieces of mind. She still appreciates the strong community and traditions of Judaism, but wants to discover the wisdom of another religion without abandoning her born faith. She enjoys getting mail.'

Mail? You lost me. So back to the question of why this story in the first place? SJP doesn’t need any publicity right now. Who else is mentioned in the story? Ajahn Brahm, author of 'Who Ordered This Truckload of Dung?: Inspiring Stories for Welcoming Life's Difficulties' is mentioned by name along with tbe book, but it hardly seems like a way to sell this volume. Other books mentioned are the usual Jubu suspects: "The Jew in the Lotus," "One God Clapping," and, of course, "Funny, You Don't Look Buddhist!"
Well, if all this reading is truly on her list it’s at least getting information from respected sources. I can only wish SJP discovers wisdom and peace in her search for the end of suffering. She isn't chasing the delusionary teachers whose spread their insanity — unlike Madonna, who decided she’s actually 36 years old because her Kabbalah teacher explained the mathematics of her recent 50th birthday mystically. Right.

August 08, 2008

Provincetown: Vacationing with the communists, homosexuals and artists.

Ptown_trip_808_0002 At the end of a week’s vacation in Provincetown and about to come back to New York City for Tisha B’Av and then back to the life of a working copywriter. My first time here and I love it. Staying down in the East End, which is more straight than gay we discover that the house next door, 592 Commercial Street (at right in the photo next to our rental condo) was, in 1916, where John Reed (author of Ten Days That Shook The World) and Louise Bryant (of whom Emma Goldman said: She was never a Communist, she just slept with one) were staying with Eugene O’Neill. In a very unhappy threesome. And then Reed’s old flame Mabel Dodge appeared, complicating the relationships even more. Can’t throw a rock in this town without hitting something in the artistic and political history of the country — starting with the first landing spot of the Pilgrims. They probably moved on to Plymouth sensing that their fundamentalist ways would not be welcome here. The women, both Dodge and Bryant, had lesbian affairs in their history as well. As for Reed, no one’s telling. Even Warren Beatty.

August 04, 2008

Gender-Free Condom Advertising & Safe Oral Sex

Rare to see condom advertising without the essential heterosexual couple looking at each other longingly. At lest in the U.S. This campaign (from Euro RSCG courtesy of adsoftheworld) from Germany features three print ads for a flavored condom. I can't find any info about the company that makes these other than a mention that in another campaign their slogan was "Get there later."  Well, this lovely ribbed chocolate bar suggests another old slogan to me: melts in your mouth, not in your hands.
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The Gay Handkerchief Code, Leathermen and Advertising

Remember the hanky code? Sometime in the 70s gay men starting wearing handkerchiefs of different colors in the back pocket of their jeans. Which side you wore it on signaled top or bottom. Which color signaled a particular practice you were into. Almost as ritualistic as the use of a hand fan by ladies at the opera in the 19th Century. The hanky code seems just as quaint now - a historical relic from another time. Nevertheless, an advertising agency, De Combinatie van Factoren, in Amsterdam picked up on it to create a promotional campaign for a new book about gay life. A team of leathermen, shown in the ad below, went around and handed out the hankys, which read: "I'll read it." and "I'll have it read to me." I always thought Amsterdam was ahead of things. Well. And how did they decide who got what hanky when they gave it out?

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August 03, 2008

Gay Youth to GLYNY Again: A Queer Odyssey

The first generation of post-Stonewall gay and lesbian youth made an important contribution to the generation that followed. And they in turn passed their contributions on...in GLYNY...Gay & Lesbian Youth New York. And they in turn...well, Out At The Center captures it all here:

I'm just proud to be in this lineage and that we continue to do good work in the community.